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I have been thinking about maturity. I want to be a mature Christian not a foolish one. I have always thought I was the most mature. I thought I was the most mature 5-year-old. I thought I was the most mature 15-year-old. Name the age - I thought I was the most mature. I always had a little diversity in my life so I had to deal with enough grown up things to feel like I was more mature than the other kids who had little or none. Not only was I dealing with adult situations before I really should have been but I also started drinking coffee, smoking cigarettes and chasing women at 11 or 12, “just like a grown man,” I’m sure I thought. I didn’t have to pay any bills or put food on the table but what’s more adult than coffee and cigarettes and women?
This is probably common to man - feeling the most mature in our own little worlds. It starts early. Most teenagers think their parents just don’t understand, right? They think they know better. (I have come to embrace that as a father. It means they are growing up and maturing. I just want them to be excellent decision makers.)
“Now as touching things offered unto idols, we know that we all have knowledge. Knowledge puffeth up, but charity edifieth.” (1 Corinthians 8:1)
True maturity begins with a healthy conviction that knowledge and wisdom are not the same thing. Knowledge is not wisdom and knowledge alone certainly does not produce maturity. It starts there but knowledge alone simply puffs up – think arrogant fat head. I can memorize the entire Bible, recite the shorter catechism, read and respond to Calvin’s Institutes, consume a good book every week, even hang a degree on my wall, and still be an immature Christian. The most educated is not the most mature.
I believe with all my heart that if you get in the Word of God and allow the Holy Spirit to work, you will be transformed from the inside out. My convictions on that have not wavered.
“So then faith [cometh] by hearing, and hearing by the word of God.” (Romans 10:17)
So why do we read and read and read and read and still not become doers of all of the Word? At best we are selective in our application. We talk about it and teach it but have no convicting passion to do anything with our own two hands. The key is in the doing. Maturity comes from the doing or the application of all of that great information I consume.
“And beside this, giving all diligence, add to your faith virtue; and to virtue knowledge; 6 And to knowledge temperance; and to temperance patience; and to patience godliness; 7 And to godliness brotherly kindness; and to brotherly kindness charity. 8 For if these things be in you, and abound, they make [you that ye shall] neither [be] barren nor unfruitful in the knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. 9 But he that lacketh these things is blind, and cannot see afar off, and hath forgotten that he was purged from his old sins.” (2Peter 1:5-9)
The pinnacle of our maturation - loving the way our Lord commanded us to love. Sacrificing our lives for the sake of others. If maturity requires the people of God to get outside and do something then what exactly should I be doing? What does this love look like?
Jesus taught us to love our neighbors as ourselves. Someone asked Jesus to clarify exactly who our neighbors are that we should be loving. Jesus tells the story of three men who encountered a fourth man who was robbed and left for dead on the side of the road. The first guy passes on the other side of the road, doing nothing. The second guy does likewise. The third guy, “The Good Samaritan” actually does something to care for the poor guy. (Luke 10:25-37) Jesus was not only clarifying who our neighbors are (the whole wide world, not just our clique) but also what that love should look like (giving, compassionate, sacrificial, action). The mature Christian has compassion and meets the needs of the person regardless of how they ended up in the ditch or how reckless, ugly, or complicated it is for them. The immature Christian passes by on the other side. They may have head knowledge that meeting the need is biblical and brings glory to God but somehow have rationalized away any real conviction to do anything.
Once in a great while you will have a preacher or even a babbler like me come through exhorting the church to do things for others. Not the easy things we ought to do for real friendly people but a real charge to do something for people that have physical, emotional, and Spiritual needs, in need of active love from the hands of Jesus - out there in the world - outside the four walls of the church building. The church seems to be greatly challenged by this. We seem to be torn between evangelism and social/physical needs or preaching the gospel and demonstrating the gospel or using our words and using our hands. We’ve even decided that some are “called” to minister with their hands and some are “called” to minister with their mouths.
I’m frequently reminded in my thoughts of Mary & Martha in Luke 10.
“Now it came to pass, as they went, that he entered into a certain village: and a certain woman named Martha received him into her house. 39 And she had a sister called Mary, which also sat at Jesus' feet, and heard his word. 40 But Martha was cumbered about much serving, and came to him, and said, Lord, dost thou not care that my sister hath left me to serve alone? bid her therefore that she help me. 41 And Jesus answered and said unto her, Martha, Martha, thou art careful and troubled about many things: 42 But one thing is needful: and Mary hath chosen that good part, which shall not be taken away from her.” (Luke 10:38-42)
This is often referred to when discussing what is most important in life – my relationship with Jesus, sitting at His feet or the physical work to be done? It can’t mean we don’t do any physical work does it? Who would get the work done when I spend all of my time at His feet? Does it mean there are those chosen to sit at His feet in prayer and devotions and then there are those other people chosen to do the work that needs to be done in order to provide the basic needs of the ones at His feet?
You may be thinking, “What do you know Pete? You think you are the most mature right now and everyone else is a boob?” Well... No... I don’t think so. Maybe. Most of the time I still feel like an immature 18-year-old in a 44-year-old sack wondering why anyone would listen to me. I don’t think I am crazy or self-righteous enough to think all of Christianity pivots on the convictions of Pete Farrell, but I do look at a church gone wild, addicted to comforts and entertainment, reproducing disciples that think maturity is sitting around most of their days drinking coffee (or microbrew) reading, praying and studying, and if you are not called to that then just make sure you sacrifice your time and energy entertaining each other. (For Jesus naturally.)
I spoke with a seminary leader recently about what he referred to as the tendency of senior pastors in America to model themselves after corporate CEO’s instead of Shepherds. He said, “We call that unbiblical.” He added, “We can’t even get these guys to do visitation.”
It seems simple to me. When I get to a passage of scripture that says something like, “support the weak” or “defend the poor”, I ask myself, “Should I be doing something? When do I do that? When is the last time I did that? Don’t worry about everyone else. What am I doing?” As a leader, and a teacher, I should be asking, “Where do I demonstrate this?” What better way to gain experience and wisdom then to do something for people who cannot pay you back? If I haven’t done anything I must be ignorant, lazy, or rebellious. How is the love of Christ that we speak of demonstrated to a lost world?
The Bible teaches us what we already know to be true – that loving those who love us is not divine. It is not a Supernatural love. The love that ought to be pouring out of us is one that loves our enemies. Crazy. (Luke 6:32-36)
As I write this, I read an email from a friend asking me to consider giving money to a family in financial need. I smiled and thought to myself, what are you going to do preacher boy? What are you going to do? Then I laughed out loud. Maniacal laugh.
Paul wrote letters to the church from jail. We don’t even want to give a man a drink of water in jail much less take spiritual advice or direction from them. The homeless, drug addicts, orphans, sick, demon possessed, weak, marginalized, oppressed – mature folks mix it up with those kind of people. Like Jesus did. The lepers, the adulterers, the poor, the weak, the hurting, the sick, the liars, the lunatics, the religious leaders. Immature leaders stay away from these messy people. We always say the right things we just have a hard time doing them.
I readily acknowledge that these are all symptoms of a lost and dying world and the solution is found in the redemptive power of the Gospel of Jesus Christ. We are not trying to fix people up absent the Gospel. We are demonstrating the Gospel by our love.
“I can’t help everyone. If I help them it will set a precedent.”
“Jesus said the poor will always be here.”
“I’m called to teach, not social causes.”
“Child sex trafficking is heinous but what can the church do, really?
“Homeless people choose to be homeless.”
“That’s what my taxes are for.”
“I can’t see any of these problems from my house. If they show up at church we’ll see what we can do.”
These don’t sound like statements made by mature Christians. We may not be able to help every opportunity but we ought not to dismiss them as beneath us.
I remember when we decided as a family to be a foster family as a full-time ministry. A loved one was disappointed and admonished me, “You can’t save the whole world.” They were right. We were not trying to save the whole world. We thought we were obeying the scriptures.
I heard of a pastor recently who is opening a Teen Challenge house. “Where will I get the time and energy Lord?” He has buried several young people recently and he feels like he has to do something. Amen. I don’t know much about Teen Challenge but I know they try to do something for young people that are in real trouble. I don’t know much about this pastor either but he’s doing something and his flock will follow.
I am so challenged and convicted. Based on what we do and where we spend our money, it would appear that most of Christianity disagrees with me about all of this. We could be led to believe that the church is limited in scope to teaching, encouraging, and entertaining one another. (I don’t think anyone would actually say that out loud. We are all more mature than that.) And it raises the question, in my mind at least, is any of this love even “required” of Christ followers? If our Lord is well pleased with my choice to do do little or nothing than why waste our time? It seems a little silly.
“I’ve done a lot of crying this month,” a foster mom told my wife. “The ministry is overwhelming.” The behavior of the kids and the other trials of the ministry had overwhelmed her and she was sad. Someone asked her, “Why do you keep doing this?” She had no immediate answer. As she drove home she thought, “Who else is going to do it?” And then she thought, “My children are better because they have had other kids to serve.” I think we are all better when we’ve had others to serve.